I can't recall when I first believed that perhaps I was not good enough. Perhaps it was an early childhood experience, perhaps it was ideas I absorbed from the media. Wherever that belief came from is irrelevant. The fact is, not only I, but the world at large seems to be in a lack of self love crisis.
What does self love mean anyway, its a term used loosely in self development and spiritual circles. You hear repeatedly, How can anyone love you if you don't love yourself? If you are ill, you are told you are not loving yourself enough, if you are lonely you are told to love yourself more.
As I pondered these questions, I had a moment of insight. Perhaps if we were truly clear on who we are, self love would be automatic. Our true selves are all made from the same indestructible force, our souls. When we have glimpses of who we truly are, we automatically feel good. When we let our souls out to play and to breathe, we feel good, we love life, we love us...this is our true nature.
Abraham, channeled by Esther Hicks reminds us that we are here inhabiting a body to experience contrast. The whole deal of having a life here on earth according to Abraham is that we can experience variety in a way not obtainable in the Spirit World. Here on earth we get to experiment with experiences in unique ways that somehow allows our development as a soul to grow. The object of the game it seems is to work out who we truly are and come from that authentic place in all our dealings here on earth.
When we look in the mirror at our finite bodies, we see imperfection, when we look at various aspects in our lives we imagine that the grass may be greener on the other side. We are looking for perfection in things that are imperfect.
I now choose to accept all my imperfections of my 57 year old body, rejoice in the beauty I have in my life and to know that my soul is who I am and my soul can never be tainted, no matter what layers cover it. At the end of the day, at the end of my life, my perfect soul will live on.
I leave you below with some hot tips from Affirmation Queen Louise Hay.
Next month, I will be in beautiful Hawaii attending a course so I will not publish in December. However, I will do a New Years Eve post to end the year. Until then, be kind to your beautiful soul self !
12 Commandments To Help You Learn How To Love Yourself
by Louise Hay
Stop All Criticism.
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.
Don’t Scare Yourself.
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It's a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
Be Gentle and Kind and Patient.
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
Be Kind to Your Mind.
Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
Be Loving to Your Negatives.
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.
Take Care of Your Body.
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
Do Mirror Work.
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, "I love you, I really love you!"
Love Yourself . . . Do It Now.
Don't wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.'
Below are some of your questions answered. If you would like to ask a question, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org I publish my Blog on the first Monday of each month.
I have experienced huge upheaval in my life this past year after caring for an unwell partner who has now left and moved back in with his family... the relationship is now over and I feel completely saddened and am unsure what or how to move forward. There is turmoil financially and emotionally but I feel I’m standing at a crossroad and feel something (spirit) is trying to guide me but somethings “wrong”... also lots of my other relationships are changing and I’m not sure why? I feel lost, alone and a bit sad? Please help Tracy
Firstly, I want you to acknowledge was a strong, wise and wonderful person that you are. I sense a beautiful woman who is very loving and non judging around you in Spirit, she brings through a candle that is lit and says that she has been guiding you and will show you the way through. At present she says you are in recovery/healing mode and to be patient with yourself. You are changing from the inside out. You will have breakthrough and feel like your old self again, just keep self loving and know that all your needs will be met. I feel the woman is someone who has passed on your mothers side of the family and she may be connected to the name Lyn, or something that sounds like that. Sending you much love and healing.
Do you see me continuing to struggle financially and continue to work in my current field?
I sense a lovely kind gentleman in Spirit around you, like a father figure. He shows me eagles flying and says to try to see the bigger picture. I feel he is suggesting that there is another way to create more financial abundance and do what gives you joy. It may start as a small thing that grows into something substantial. Now is a time for reflection and prayers to Spirit to give you clear messages. I feel you have more power than you realize and the universe will take a thousand steps towards you once you take one. I feel 2019 will be a time of positive change around work and money.