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| Butterflies always symbolize change to me, as do snakes. |
When I studied psychology, the first unit
we studied described how one can control the major percentage of variables in
one’s environment. We can control the
temperature of a room, we can choose to save money and we can choose to eat the
right foods and so on. Quite true to
some extent but what about the variables we can’t control? What about if someone dies or you are
retrenched from your job?
Change is one of the only things we can be
guaranteed in life. From the moment we
are conceived we begin to change and grow.
I firmly believe that it is the major turning points of change in our
life that are the most significant in terms of inner, soul growth. As painful and devastating major changes can
be, we are often never quite the same again.
It is where we truly gain valuable wisdom and in the long term are able
to enlighten and support others as well.
Significantly, there is often a’ bigger picture’
to major change that we fail to see in the early event. For example, a woman
gets breast cancer, then recovers and goes on in life to support many other
women going through the same thing. A person is retrenched from their job after thirty
years of faithful service and is mortified. However, within twelve months they are in a
much better job and happier than they have been for years, perhaps developing
skills that were long dormant. I guess
the saying; ‘it will work out for the best’ is often true.
When someone dies that is close to us it
can be one of the most significant catalyst for transformation in our
lives. A natural response is to go
within on a deep level looking for answers. The grief can be unbearable and painful yet
beyond the grief, deep within, our soul cries out for help. This is what brings
us closer to our authentic, true self where real healing of our hearts can
begin. Death in our lives also helps us
to prioritize and teaches us to live our life more fully as it brings to light
our own mortality.
So it seems none of us are immune to major
change at some point in our life and the part we get to control is how we
accept and deal with it. Do we embrace it or do we deny it isn’t happening and
hope it will go away and revert back to how it was before when it felt ‘safe’?
Embracing change means acknowledging what
is happening and facing our fears. Once
our fears are faced they don’t seem quite as bad. It is at these points in our lives it is
important to utilize out support systems such as family and friends. If you are lacking in support, perhaps seek
out professional assistance. Also, try
to maintain an objective perspective by remembering that there is always a
bigger picture that we can’t see and have a bit of faith in the universe. They say you will only be given the
challenges that you are ready to deal with even if you feel incompetent.
Most of all, major change in our lives is a
time to be very gentle on ourselves, nurture ourselves, seek out healing and avoid
harsh environments and people who aren’t supportive. We are often sensitized at these times as we
process what’s happening. Also, remember
that you are supported by your angels, guides and loved ones in spirit that are
only a thought and a prayer away.
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